In this episode we spoke about how we can be at peace with the people around us which will In turn allow us to achieve mental health.
We discussed as a group what people think we need in order to achieve peace with the people around us.
There was many ideas but we focused on the idea that it starts by loving yourself.
The period of time that we are in now in is the three weeks which remembers the destruction of the temple. The talmud in yoma9a says that the second temple was destroyed because of baseless hatred. The talmud explains that although there was Torah and good deeds there was still baseless hatred. This means that the hatred that we are seeing untill today is an internal hatred. Its a hatred that comes deep from within. That’s what we need to work on. Today We are great at speaking nicely in public, today we are all about tolerance but not so great behind closed doors deep from within and that’s what we need to fix.
So how can we love ourselves more? Here is a list of ideas we came up with.
1 Don’t let your ambitions allow you to forget what you have become.
2 Stay away from negativity. You see things based on what you are used to seeing like Abraham saw people, Lot saw the angels. This includes bad friends, TV and negative music, cursing, complainers,
American Psychological Association (APA) Scientists have linked TV viewing to antisocial behavior, lowered verbal IQ and altered brain structure. Affects babies even when unaware. Lowers Attention Span. Makes you fat. – The average 18-year-old has seen 200,000 violent actions committed on television over the course of his life, including 40,000 murders.
3 Dress well maimonides says this is the opposite of Shefal ruach a person that is low in spirit
4 Don’t waste time. If you do you will hate yourself more and be angry at the success of others
5 Don’t live a life that is for others
6 Strive for perfection Don’t demand perfection from yourself. Enjoy the growing process